You know who they are, right?
They hurtle toward you at a party, corner you in the hall. Ramble on about something or other, whining complaining joyless stressed. Their self-preoccupation is in extravagant bloom, venom raging under their veneer of social grace. On and on and on they go.
Yep. They’re the energy vampires, sucking you dry. (more…)
Personal Influence. Most folks like the notion of having some. My professional practice is predicated on the benefits of getting it.
The right position in the right firm gets us a modicum of influence. Knowing other influential people gets us some more. Presenting innovative ideas – huh, now we’re getting somewhere. The most disarming way of being influential? (more…)
I tire of the athlete-success-story. I feel like I know the script too well.
Innate talent. Hard work and training. Motivational coach who challenges just right. Sports psychologist who creates the optimal mind space.
Nice. But how does this relate to how you and I maneuver in the world?
Then there’s Roger Federer. (more…)
When I look at public leadership, the view is dismal.
I’m reminded of it as I flip through an old essay by Jay Cost in the Wall Street Journal, The Politics of Distrust (10/17/15). I am reminded of it as I watch political leaders pontificate in front of a camera. I listen, and I do a gut check. Can I trust you? (more…)
You know THAT person. We all do.
The smugness in his voice, the rock-arrogance in the way she stands, the smirk of condescension as they seem to lecture you, the fake niceness of their smile that you don’t buy for a second.
You feel yourself boil and rebel inside. Yes, THAT person. (more…)
Friday at the counter of my favorite sushi bar in Ft. Lauderdale. Andy, the fellow sitting to my right, turns out to be the just-retired CEO of a well-known Fortune 500 recruitment firm.
Do you miss your work? I ask Andy
I hated the politics of my job. Andy answers circuitously. (more…)
Chances are, you know about “managing UP.” The art of influencing your mercurial, distracted, and perhaps occasionally unpredictable boss. If you have worked in the business world long enough, you have likely taken a class on this essential skill.
Hint: Know her priorities. Speak his language. Anticipate their needs. Be truthful and don’t BS them. Contract (more…)